Make Sure You Lose That Baby Weight – A Weighty Ramble

One of the things I have struggled with all my life is weight. Being told I wasn’t thin enough constantly when I was a child had me at the point where I wondered whether it was worth trying with weight and all around general. From 13 I was over eating in frustration, believing that I wasn’t good enough now so what was the use in making an effort at all. At the time I couldn’t see what people were doing, and in fact what I was doing to myself, all because I didn’t fit into a box they deemed acceptable. I was only a size 12, it’s not as if at that point I was unhealthily large. I was me, I was average and most of all I was normal.

This carried on up until I was around 23 and at that point I had a serious look at myself and knew I wasn’t who I deserved to be. I was hiding behind my weight and claiming I was fine with it. In reality I was miserable, I was in a relationship I didn’t want to be in but believed I deserved only this and nothing more. Thankfully that relationship broke down and it pushed me to do something about my weight.

Moving back home with my mum helped, it was the change from chippy dinners and microwave meals to home cooked meals everyday. From 2015 to 2016 I lost 4 stone and four dress sizes. I was, and still am, extremely proud. I felt and looked a whole lot different. My outlook on life changed. I started going out with friends again, enjoying things that only a few months earlier I would’ve never thought about doing. That still wasn’t enough for some people ‘only a bit more from here, here and here and you’ll be lovely. You’ve got such a pretty face it’s a shame.’

Flash forward it’s 2017, I’m in a beautiful, healthy and happy relationship with a man who I love so much and who feels the exact same about me and we find out we are pregnant! I’m happy, I never thought I would have children, in fact I wasn’t even sure if I wanted children until I met my partner.

Now along with my own anxiety about my weight always at the front of my mind, I still have people, close family telling me they hope I lose the baby weight and I can’t forget to shed the pounds afterwards. It sends me right back to when I was teenager, wondering if it’s worth it. Before any comments I was planning an extra healthy diet for me and my baby, I have cut out fizzy drinks and tried so hard to keep on track and it’s those remarks about MY body that have me wondering if I am pandering to them, losing weight for them and not myself.

I’m going to try and keep my head on as straight as I can, keep up the healthy eating for the little one and myself and ignore them, but I can only take so much. I wish I didn’t have to focus on my weight every day, thinking it’s the most important thing in the world. Having a supportive partner has done wonders for my self confidence and anxiety, I only hope I can continue to stay true to myself and not let the negative comments win, again!

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8 Comments

  1. February 10, 2018 / 3:21 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I can imagine you would have flashbacks to being a teen when others are saying something about your weight. And from what you shared about the first time you lost some, it was for YOU. I’m an Eating Psychology coach, and I’ve had my own battle between needing validation from others based on what i look like, and still practice listening to myself first. My invitation would be to drop the scale…. focus and measure habits you want to create, like how you want to eat (doesn’t have to be “perfect”) at least 80% of the time. Or how many times a week you want to exercise, etc. you are not doing it for others… well, maybe for your baby 😉 but not so you can “look” how people want you to, but so you can be the vibrant, energetic, healthy mama that you are!

    • February 10, 2018 / 4:10 pm

      Thank you also, for taking the time to comment on my post. It definitely was for me the first time. I totally agree with you, just because I’m losing weight wouldn’t mean I was doing it for someone else. It’s definitely going to pay off being more fit and healthy, once I’ve got a little one to run round after.

      You’ve really helped brighten up my weekend! So thank you again 💗

  2. christineokello
    February 11, 2018 / 10:16 am

    As a mum of 2 who put on a load of weight both times and lost all of it after, my 2 cents… Do it for yourself and the baby! Don’t listen to any person who puts you down. Being a new mum is already so stressful and a lot of work and fatigue, and having to start worrying about what others say about your weight will just make it worse. Do you. Do it for yourself! And it’s great that your partner is supportive. Just enjoy being a new mum without letting negativity ruin it. It’s the best thing ever! xx

    • February 11, 2018 / 10:37 am

      Thanks for taking the time to make such a thoughtful comment! Yes, I agree. If I need to lose any weight it will be for myself and our little bump. I think it’s just my stubborn side coming out and ‘why should I do it to make you happy?’ But I shouldn’t and just because I will lose weight doesn’t mean it’ll be for anyone else. Xx

  3. staceyspruels
    February 11, 2018 / 9:59 pm

    Yes indeed do for yourself. I need to, want to lose weight at the minute haven’t been able to get in the mindset but makes me extremely conscious on my vlogs etc, plus health and diabetes is in the family. And had gestational diabeties when pregnancy with Rowan so am higher risk. Noticing getting bad backs lots and other problems. Is the next goal on my list. Trouble with me it is not a quick fix. I have the exact same anxieties over weight. Do it in your own time when you feel ready xx

    • February 11, 2018 / 10:03 pm

      Exactly! It’s like being caught between a rock and a hard place. Currently just ‘weighing’ up the options, as I could definitely be some what healthier and fitter so it’s not necessarily about my weight in that case. No matter how many people accept you for the way you are there is always that horrible nagging in the back of your mind.

      It’s definitely not a quick fix, a long term and very hard goal to set and achieve. Thank you for commenting, it’s lovely hearing from you even on this subject! Xx

  4. February 14, 2018 / 1:55 pm

    Definitely make sure you do it for yourself. If anyone has anything rude to say about your weight, just try and brush it off and remember that you’re beautiful no matter what size you are 💕

    • February 14, 2018 / 2:14 pm

      Thanks darling, yeah I’ve had some lovely comments on this that I’m very thankful I put this post up now 💗 x

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